Stalking Information

Stalking is serious, sometimes violent, and can escalate over time.  It is not tolerated at Saint Mary's College.

Stalking is defined in the SMC Student Handbook as:

  • a course of conduct directed at a specific person 
  • would cause a reasonable person to fear for their safety or the safety of others
  • or to cause a reasonable person to suffer substantial emotional distresss

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW...

Some things stalkers do:

  • Follow you and show up wherever you are
  • Send unwanted gifts, letters, cards, emails, or text messages
  • Damage your home, car, or other property
  • Monitor your phone calls or computer use
  • Use technology to track where you are at any given time
  • Drive by or hang out at your home, school and/or work
  • Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets
  • Post information or spread rumors about you online, in a public place or by word of mouth
  • Utilize social media to follow, harass, and/or threaten you
  • Any other actions that control, track, or frighten you

If you are being stalked, you may:

  • Feel like you are losing your mind
  • Feel fear of what the stalker will do
  • Feel vulnerable, unsafe, and not know who to trust
  • Feel anxious, irritable, impatient, or on edge
  • Feel depressed, hopeless, overwhelmed, tearful, or angry
  • Feel stressed, including having trouble concentrating, sleeping, or remembering things
  • Have eating problems, such as loss of appetite, forgetting to eat, or overeating
  • Have flashbacks, disturbing thoughts, feelings, or memories
  • Feel confused, frustrated, or isolated because other people don't understand why you are afraid

Stalking is a form of power based personal violence.

If you or someone you know wants more information or to talk about your options confidentially, please contact Megan Gallagher, Director of the CARE Center, at mag7@stmarys-ca.edu or (925) 631-4193.